And the search begins.

So I've been living back at my mom's house now for a little over 3 months, and I'm pretty much at my breaking point.  My friend H has had to recently move back in with her mom, and she's ready to lose it too.  I met up with her last night for her cousin's birthday celebration, and we had some drinks and formulated a plan.  The plan is to find a place together.  The plan is to begin this week.  The plan is now.  The plan is genius. 

I'm really excited about this, I really think that she and I will be the refreshment that the other needs, and it's definitely something to look foward to.  I'm happy that I was able to save up some money while being at home, but it's definitely time to go!

I bought Chelsea Handler's book "Chelsea Chelsea Bang Bang" and just started reading it.  I've only just read the first chapter, and already I was laughing so hard that there were tears streaming down my face and my jaw about fell to the floor like 3 times.  She is hilarious!  And raunchy as hell, but I love it.  I can't wait to see what else this crazy broad has to say.  I love her show, so when I saw her book, I knew I had to get it.  I think she has a couple others out too, so I'll probably be getting those soon too. 

Court this morning.

So... you're not going to believe this.  I had court this morning.  And... the bitch... didn't even show up!!!

The entire thing was dismissed.  Yep!!  That's karma for ya, people.  I knew it'd all be ok.  Well I was hoping it'd be! I think I probably woke up like 8 times last night, was jolted awake by the stress of it all, I just couldn't sleep to save my life!  But yeah, I'm so happy.  I was literally skipping out of the courthouse lol.  So that's that.  All of this stress and preparation and talking to a lawyer and everything, all for nothing!  But hey, it's totally better this way. 

Yay!

Court tomorrow.

OY VEY!!  not looking foward to court tomorrow at all.  It's really starting to make me a bit queeeeesy, and I just really want it to be all over.  I have to go to court because of that crazy roommate that I told you about. 

I'd like to say that I'm fully prepared, but there is just no way of knowing what kinda bullshit this woman is gonna pull out of her ass.  But even so, I have notes typed up to take with me.  I had typed up full responses for each one of her allegations against me, to send to my lawyer's office for them to be able to give me advice about the case, and so I've shortened up my answers so that I'll be able to just skim over my notes when asked questions about it.  My mind has a tendency to just go completely blank when I get stressed, so I know I won't be quick on my feet to answer.  But the good news is that she'll be speaking first, and then I'll have the floor to be able to give my responses, so at least I won't just be going in there and trying to make a case on my own or something. 

It sucks that because it's small claims court, my prepaid legal policy doesn't give me a lawyer to take with me, but at least I was able to talk to him for a good 20 minutes and he walked me through everything that I should be expecting to happen, and gave me some tips. 

Overall, I'm feeling pretty good about it, and I don't think that she has a good case against me or anything, but still, this kinda thing just makes me wanna grab my blanket and hide my face.  Maybe, if she can't see me, I can't see her.  haha.  Wish me luck!

Crazy Roommate #84

I'm not really sure why I have had so many crazy roommates, but this past one TAKES THE FUCKING CAKE. 

Guess what I got SERVED with today?  She is suing me for almost $700 for 'unpaid utilities, late fees, damaged equipment (by the way, she spelled it equiptment), storage fees, and cleaning fees.'  I think I got them all, the paper is in the other room, I'm reciting her 'list' from memory.  Oh.  My.  God. 

This woman has absolutely no grounds at all.  I lived with her for 3 months.  She took my money that I paid her for rent and for utilities, and then spent it all on bingo and would be asking her tenants for our rent and utility money early because she hadn't used it to pay the bills.  I woke up to there being no power one morning, no internet another morning, no cable tv for over 3 weeks... and there was always an excuse.  "They messed up my bill again!"  Yeah right.. like that happens to one person countless times, and from every single company that you have to pay.  On top of that, she was a nightmare to live with.  At first I just thought she was quirky, a little weird but full of energy.  Then there was that time that I had to call 911 to come take her unconscious ass to the hospital after downing two bottles of that christmas egg nog that's premixed with rum or something.  Yes, I did say TWO BOTTLES.  Then there was that time that I had a full day of clients the next day, which was a Tuesday, and her daughter comes home from college and decides to throw a party at our house that lasted until 430am, with nothing but kids who weren't even close to being of the legal drinking age.  When I complained to my roommate about it, she lunged at me and started screaming that I need to stop being selfish and that she wants her daughter to have a good time.  She was actually raising her arms as if to hit me but her darling boyfriend held her back.  Yeah.  Precious.  Then there was that time that I had bought myself a full grocery load and then unexpectedly had to go outta town to help my grandmother move and when I came home all of my groceries were gone.  I'm talking down to the last egg.  All gone.  Nothing was replaced, even though I made it known that I was upset about it, and that I didn't eat their food without asking.  All of this in 3 months people.  3 fucking months. 

The last straw was waking up to having absolutely no power and having to take a freezing cold shower in a pitch black bathroom before going to work.  The next day, I moved out.  I didn't owe her a thing.  I had never signed a lease with her, I had never signed anything with her.  I moved back in with my mother for the first time since I was 18.  That's desperation! 

So now she is suing me.  I have absolutely no idea why she thinks that she is actually going to get a cent from me.  I have a lawyer, and she is well aware of that.  Hell, I sell Prepaid Legal!  (another one of my many ways of making money lol, my stepdad does it and got me into it)  So yeah, I called my lawyer today, and told him about it.  I faxed him the paperwork and he'll be giving me a call back in a couple days.  She, on the other hand, doesn't have a lawyer, she doesn't have any grounds for these accusations, it's really all just ridiculous.  When I told my mom about it, she burst out laughing.  Lord...  some people.

Staying put. and eating better. and marriage.

Well after all that stress and confusion, looks like I'm going to be staying right where I am.  I talked to my roommate tonight about the move coming up.  Or lack of one I should say now.

The wife asked me a couple days ago, "You're moving?" and I said yes...  she said why... and I said because I thought I had to...  she looked at me like she had no idea what I was talking about.  She told me that my roommate is staying and that I should stay too.  I asked the roommate about it tonight and he said that he's decided to stay and that I'm welcome to stay as long as I want.  I'm like... ummmm ok....  wtf was all of this for then?????????????

It's easier to stay than finding a new place and getting comfortable with a new roommate and the actual act of MOVING which I hate.  I am comfortable here, become good friends with a lot of the neighbors, and it's nice to have friends in walking distance. 

The wife left today, which makes me happy, and it'll be 4 months before she's home again, and even then she won't be living here.  She apparently wants time to herself for a while, wants to be on her own.  He's just agreeing to whatever she says.  They both are 'allowed' to 'date' while she's gone, this is her making these rules and him basically not having a choice if he wants to keep her, but he takes full advantage of the freedom.  This whole scenario is difficult to watch.  I'm single now, and don't know who I'll end up with, but chances are it'll be with a woman.  I want to be able to get married just as much as the next gal, and I'm not allowed to here.  But this is what marriage is in this splendid country.  A 20 year old 'wife' and a 32 year old 'husband' getting married out of convenience because she's in the army.  Just the other night, she went out with a neighbor, they wanted to go clubbing on a wednesday night.  They texted another one of our neighbors asking where should they go because the few places they went were closed, and then texted back a few minutes later 'nevermind, we're gonna stay out, just don't tell Chris (my roommate) that the bars are closed.'  They constantly lie to each other, and it's just disgusting.  I don't get it. 

Be proud!  I've been doing really well with food this week (except for the bbp party last night at my bosses's house).  Eating a lot of veggies and fruits, and absolutely no beef or pork all week. 

OH MY GOSH!!  i JUST saw a really awesome commercial thingy.  It was these two girls (nametags say Emma and Julia) sitting behind a counter working in a convenient store and one asks the other if she wants to hang out when they get outta work.  The other girl says no, that her parents want her to come directly home after work.  The first girl says 'ugh... that's so gay.'  A woman walks up to the counter and says 'wow..  That's so Emma and Julia.'  they ask why she's saying that, and she says 'well that's what people say when they're refering to something being stupid.  everyone says it.'  Emma and Julia look at each other confused and the screen goes black.  A voice says 'do you realize what you are saying when you say that's so gay? Knock it off."  haha.  i love it.

Anyway back to my diet for the week...  it's actually easy to do...  I haven't really had to fight any cravings.  Plus I'm saving money not ordering food everyday for lunch at work.  I swear we probably spend $50 a week just on lunch at work, we always order out.  hope everyone had a good weekend.

Yay! Gotta start somewhere.

Ok so I've been working out this week and eat a hell of a lot better, and I've already lost 2 lbs!  Yes I know, it's only 2 lbs and I coulda lost that just by a good pee but hey.  Gotta start somewhere!  Luckily I actually enjoy eating the good for you yum yums like veggies and fruits.  I just have this weakness for fast food.  Fast food has truly been how I've gained my weight.  I wasn't allowed to eat it growing up, and then there was that one boyfriend (the last guy I ever dated) when I was 17-18 whose metabolism was through the roof and never gained a pound and always ate horribly.  So I started eating horribly with him, and it all went down hill from there.  I've gained around 60 lbs since high school.  I'm aware that I may never get that little high school body back but I want to get in a good shape for my body now.  What am I saying?  I'm only 25, I can do this.  No problem.  2 lbs down, 58 to go. 

I'm meeting another potential roommate this morning before I go into work at 11.  The last one was a nightmare, so creepy that I didn't even get out of my car.  But I've talked to this one a couple times on the phone and done extensive questionaire style emails back and forth to get to know each other.  He's a 38 year old gay guy from Texas, and he seems really down to earth and nice.  He owns the house, and another gay guy lives there with him who is 25.  They've already been living together for a year and get along really well.  He has a full gym set up in his garage and a hot tub in the backyard to relax in after workouts haha.  He said he wants someone to work out with him and I got so excited!  He's just gotten this hip hop work out video and wants someone to do it with him, and his other roommate won't lol.  This is gonna be quite a site, I'm about as white girl as they come when it comes to dancing.  So anyway, hopefully this works out and I can get outtaaaaa hereeeeeee!!  Wish me luck.

Oh I hate moving.

So on very short notice, I've been looking for a new place to live.  Like I said in a previous post, I feel like I've been doing nothing but moving for the past few years.  It's just so hard to find a good roommate.  My current roommate and I have gotten along really well since I moved in, which was in January.  He and his fiance had married in January before she was leaving for deployment to Afghanistan.  Less than a month after she's gone, he finds out that she's already dating someone else who is in her command.  Yeah...  way to go. 

He and I become good friends fast, with me having to console him through all the trauma.  And even after all the drama calmed, he seemed to be doing a lot better, we still did most activities together.  Great friends.  Until.  She's coming home for 2 weeks leave from her year long deployment.  He's still in love with her, and after seeing her for all of 5 minutes, he's telling me that he is wanting to do whatever he can to make it work.  So, the little princess is running the show again.  She's 20 years old (he's 32), and thinks that she's God's gift to the world, and even more so, she knows that she's got him in the palm of her hand, and she's eating it up.  She tells him that she wants to stay legally married but that when she gets back at the end of her deployment, she wants to move to Richmond (which is 2 hours away from here) and spend some time on her own for a couple years, but that they can see each other on some weekends.  He, being the lovestruck dumbass that he is, agrees.  On top of all that, she's apparently not ok with the fact that he's made friends here without her being around (me and the neighbors that we've become close with), so she is telling him that he has to move into a different place.  The lease is up here in a month, and we had planned to renew it and stay.  But now, he's going to be moving, and when I asked if I was going to be moving with him (since I know we both can't afford to live on our own), he said "well, that's up to you I guess, but the place I'm moving to is going to be A LOT more expensive..."  basically a very sheepish way of telling me HEY GUESS WHAT!  You need to find something else.  So here I am. 

He's completely changed since she's been home.  She's leaving in a few days to go back to her deployment, thank god.  She makes it awkward as hell here.  They have two dogs, who of course have become attached to me since I've been living here.  When they run up to me when I get home from somewhere, she yanks them back as if she doesn't want them to touch me.  I just stand there like... wtf is wrong with this girl.  It was her idea for me to move in in the first place, and now she acts as if she hates me for no reason.  It's just so weird.  I haven't done anything but be a friend to this guy since she broke his heart. 

So!  I've been looking for roommates on craigslist.  I went to meet with this guy after work today, and he turned out to be so creepy that I didn't even get out of my car, I just kept driving when I saw him.  And the house was in a cute neighborhood, but it was the sore thumb on the street.  He had two broken down cars parked in the front yard and and a trailer with some kind of contraption in it, and with grass growing up tall all around it.  Oh... dear god.  One potential roommate crossed off the list, and a few more to go.  Keep your fingers crossed for me.  I'm trying to find a good place soon, so that I can just go ahead and make the big move.  No reason to stick around here and deal with weirdness if I can help it.